What to get it right? Get it wrong first.

What are you kicking yourself for not being happy about? Are you miserable in your career and feeling stupid for picking that profession? Are you suffering in your relationship or are you convinced you’re not destined to be with anyone? Have you experienced a failure and are thinking that means you should give up? Maybe you should feel encouraged, instead.

Behavior writer James Clear argues that getting it wrong is not only not the end of the line, it is a necessary part of the process. Look back on past attempts, such as the first person you dated, and judge whether that particular success would have been appropriate for your life now.

Here’s a quote from his piece, then click on the link below to read the full article.

Choices that seem poor in hindsight are an indication of growth, not self-worth or intelligence.

Read the article: Your First Choice is Rarely the Optimal Choice: 5 Lessons on Being Wrong | James Clear

One reason lack of success feels so difficult to accept is because society can equate failure with shame. You didn’t just make a mistake; you’re simply¬†incompetent. The problem is with you, not your actions. No one wants to be a “failure” or a “loser,” those who simply can’t get anything right. At least, anything that counts.

Some people do fail over and over without reflecting on why things aren’t going right, without learning from their mistakes and making course corrections. These are not good examples to follow. However, if you’re learning from your mistakes and that translates to practical changes, you’re not in this category. Keep learning, keep reflecting, keep evaluating your needs, wants and goals. Really get to know yourself and your abilities, both your strengths and areas you could strengthen. This will help you to embrace the teaching power of failure.

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